Wednesday, November 23, 2022

Thanksgiving 2022

 


This is probably going to get me into trouble but my mental health is so bad these days that I really don't give a flying fig.

One of the things I learned in therapy is that when things get bad, mental depression-wise, something that might help is listing the things for which one is grateful, i.e., literally counting one's blessings.  And while I love my family deeply and am continually grateful for their presence in my life, right now I am simply not in a very good place and it has nothing whatsoever to do with them.

I am not especially grateful to be in America right now, or to be an American.  That's mostly it right there.

I can't feel safe at the movies.  Might get shot.

Can't go to a concert.  Might get shot.

I can't feel safe at the grocery store.  Might get shot.

Can't send the kids to school and feel good about it.  They might get shot.

Can't go to a club or let my bi family members go to the LGBTQIA+ club.  Might get shot.

I am sick of living in a place where guns have more rights than people.  Where the right to own assault weapons supercedes the right to live without fear of being shot.  Shot for who I love, how I live, how I voted, or just being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

It sucks.

Saturday, October 23, 2021

The Hutchins/Baldwin Tragedy

 As most of my friends know, I used to be a working actor.  These days I mostly do voice work (when I can get it) but before my poor health gutted my acting career, I did a fair amount of stage and a little bit of film work, and I wanted to say something about the tragedy that the family of cinematographer Halyna Hutchins is experiencing.  My heart goes out to them and to Alec Baldwin as well; I can’t even begin to imagine what hell he must be feeling.

The level of negligence and incompetence that led to this tragedy is unbelievable.  My first question was, what the hell was the Assistant Director doing with the gun in the first place?  It is not the AD’s place to deliver firearms to the actors.  Where was the propmaster?  Where was the armorer?  Where was, at the very least, a pyrotechnician?  Why were live rounds anywhere near the production at all?


Basic gun safety was clearly not being observed by anyone.  The first thing that anyone, anyone, should do upon being handed a weapon is to check it.  Make sure the load is correct, the safety is on, there is no round in the chamber, etc.  You do not blindly trust what anyone who hands you a weapon tells you, you check it for yourself, always.  Which means being taught by an expert on how to do exactly that with that weapon.


Weapons are never to be pointed directly at another person, ever.  Make it look good, but safety first.  And they are never, ever, ever to be used for pranks or as toys.


When I was first starting out, I played the role of Lennie in “Of Mice And Men” and [spoiler alert] at the end of the play, Lennie is shot and killed by George.  The production was done in the round, in a theater with the audience very close to the actors.  The muzzle was close enough to my head that I could see the flame from the blast go past my head.  The safety level on that production was extremely high; it was around the time that actor Jon-Erik Hexum had accidentally killed himself by firing a blank at his own head in jest.  We had an armorer who made sure that only unwadded blanks were used.  We had a member of local law enforcement (a sheriff’s deputy and marine vet, if memory serves) who checked that Luger every time an actor touched it, and who stood guard over it every night.  He made sure that the right kind of ammo was loaded and trained all of us in how to properly check and use the gun; he was the one who taught me that you never take a weapon from another’s hand on trust; that it can never be checked often enough.  (A quick word on blanks: there is more than one kind.  Unwadded blanks are just cartridges with powder; maybe a tiny of bit of paper to hold the powder in place.  They just explode a blast of hot air and plasma out of the barrel.  They are still lethal.  Firing an unwadded blank at close range into, say, one’s temple would still transmit a tremendous, potentially lethal amount of explosive force.  This is how Hexum and actor Brandon Lee were killed.  A wadded blank is just what it sounds like:  a small amount of cotton is packed into the cartridge to hold in the powder.  That wadding is fired out of the barrel of the gun at the same speed and with the same force as a bullet, and at close range is just as deadly.)


The point is that there should have been a number of safety precautions in place, any one of which would have prevented this terrible tragedy, and it seems as though none of them were.  This morning I learned that one contributing factor may have been that a union crew on the film had recently been replaced by a non-union crew after the IATSE settlement, which puts the blame even more squarely on the shoulders of the producers, if true.


Know that, sad as it may be, nobody but nobody can be trusted with your safety except you.

Sunday, December 8, 2019

Destiny 2


So.  I’m writing this to share some news with a few good friends, and I need you to bear with me for a while with a bit of background information.  Many of you might know that I really like video games, but probably very few of you know just how avid I am with regard to the video games I play.  One in particular has been a bit of an obsession for over five years.  You may have heard of a game called “Halo.”  (This is not the game I’m talking about here, but I figure it’s the one you might have heard about.)  Halo was created by a studio that has made games that I love for over 25 years, but “Halo” was probably their most famous.  They sold the Halo franchise to Microsoft some years ago so that they could focus on a new science fiction game, called “Destiny.”  Destiny is now the number one game on the Steam gaming platform.  It’s played on PC, on Xbox, and on PlayStation. Over 15 million people play it, with about 3.5 million online at any given time.  So far over 4.5 million hours have been spent playing Destiny, a bunch of them by me.

Like most very popular things, Destiny has an active fan community online.  This past year saw the first conventions of fans.  There are online comic books, fan fiction sites, and volumes — literally, volumes; three and counting — of lore, history and back story for the Destiny universe.  You can play alone, or with other people, or against other people, or with a team, or against other teams.  There are a lot of options.  There are also lots of options with regard to the kind of character you can play as.  D and D players will recognize the categories of Tanks (big strong fighters), Magic Users and Rogues.  In Destiny they are called Titans, Warlocks and Hunters.  (I am a Hunter.)

One particularly dedicated group of fans and players has worked with Bungie, the studio that made Destiny, to create an animated series based on the Destiny Universe.  The animation is tentatively called “Termino.”  A call went out early in December for writers, voice actors, character animators, and so forth.  Since I play the game every day, I was interested, and submitted an audition to be a voice actor.

I learned yesterday that I was cast in a role.  My audition recording arrived later than most because of some technical difficulties I was having, but the producer/director informed me that even though they had cast most of the major parts already, they were so impressed with my audition that they created a role just for me, so that I could be a part of the project.  This is unheard of, and I am ridiculously pleased by this.

The project is in pre-production now and recording will begin in January 2020.  I’ll keep you posted as much as I can, but I signed a LOT of non-disclosure agreements.  This project has a lot of potential, and a big ready-made audience, and I could not be happier!


Saturday, June 1, 2019

Things I Will Never Understand About Living in Central Pennsylvania

There are some things I will never understand about living in Central Pennsylvania, in spite of having lived here since 1988.  (Also, I grew up in central New Jersey, which you wouldn't have thought was that far from here, but in fact, in many ways it's like night and day.)  Anyway, here's a short list:

• The abomination that is chicken and waffles.  What the serious hell.
• Not using a turn signal until after having begun the turn. Or the lane change.
• Using the expression "a while" when you mean "now," as in a food server asking you, "What can I get you to drink a while?"
• Taking three times as long to make a left turn as it does to turn right.  Like it's a separate career.
• Sauerkraut
• Pennsylvania Dutch everything, especially those coded hex signs.
• The incredibly divisive issue that is Shoo Fly Pie.  Wet bottom, or dry?  Choose carefully.
• The deep south Bible-belt flavor of the area, sandwiched as it is between Philadelphia and Pittsburgh.
• Holding the State Fair (aka the Farm Show) in January.
• Chicken Pot Pie which is neither pie, nor in a pot, nor does it have a crust.  It's chicken and veggies in a cream sauce with big fat noodles.  At least it's chicken.

This is my home.  I do love it.

Monday, December 17, 2018

34 Years


This week I celebrated my 34th wedding anniversary, to a girl I met in high school.  She was not my high school sweetheart, although I loved her madly from afar from the first moment I saw her.  She did become my friend while at school, and years later, we started dating.  It took us until we were 31 years old, but we were finally married.

One of the hardest things I ever had to do happened a couple of years ago, at a choir recital we called "Music for the Soul" based on the writings of Robert Fulghum.  My health over the years has taken a lot from me.  I have trouble walking.  I suffer from neurological disorders that cause pain in my arms and legs, which can be acute at times.  Once upon a time I was a working actor with the various skills you might think an actor should have in their toolbox.  Now all I have left is a decent speaking voice.  My choir director generously called me the James Earl Jones of the chorus.  Whenever we needed to incorporate a reading into a performance, I was usually called upon to deliver it. 

The hard thing I mentioned was reading this excerpt by Fulghum about the actor, Charles Boyer, who is pictured above.  It was almost impossible for me to get through the piece, because it describes perfectly exactly how I feel about the woman I married 34 years ago.  This was it:

"This is kind of personal.  It may get a little syrupy, so watch out.  It started as a note to my wife.  And then I thought that since some of you might have husbands or wives (or life partners) and might feel the same way, I’d pass it along.  I don’t own this story, anyway.  Charles Boyer does.

"Remember Charles Boyer?  Suave, dapper, handsome, graceful.  Lover of the most famous and beautiful ladies of the silver screen.  That was on camera and in the fan magazines.  In real life it was different.

"There was only one woman.  For forty-four years. His wife, Patricia.  Friends said it was a lifelong love affair. They were no less lovers and friends and companions after forty-four years than after the first year.

"Then Patricia developed cancer of the liver.  And though the doctors told Charles, he could not bear to tell her.  And so he sat by her bedside to provide hope and cheer.  Day and night for six months.  He could not change the inevitable.  Nobody could.  And Patricia died in his arms.  Two days later Charles Boyer was also dead.  By his own hand.  He said he did not want to live without her.  He said, 'Her love was life to me.'

"This was no movie. As I said, it’s the real story—Charles Boyer’s story.

"It’s not for me to pass judgment on how he handled his grief.  But it is for me to say that I am touched and comforted in a strange way.  Touched by the depth of love behind the apparent sham of Hollywood love life.  Comforted to know that two people can love each other that much, that long.

"I don’t know how I would handle my grief in similar circumstances.  I pray I shall never have to stand in his shoes. (Here comes the personal part—no apologies.)  But there are moments when I look across the room—amid the daily ordinariness of life—and see the person I call my wife and friend and companion. And I understand why Charles Boyer did what he did.  It really is possible to love someone that much.  I know.  I’m certain of it."

And I do know.  And I am certain of it.  I used to say, the heck with Romeo and Juliet; I want a love like Gomez and Morticia.  I got even luckier than that, though.  I have a love like Charles and Patricia.

Happy anniversary, sweetheart.

Thursday, November 15, 2018

In Memoriam: Stan Lee

This is a hard one.  I had the privilege of meeting Stan Lee at the Baltimore Comic-Con in 2012.  I only got to spend a minute or two with him, but he was absolutely wonderful about it.  I had a little elevator speech for Stan, down to under a minute, but I guess his handlers thought that was too much and tried to move things along.  Stan interrupted them with an, "Excuse me, I'm talking here!" like the good Bronx boy he was and we got to finish our little moment and have our picture taken.

Getting to have that minute with Stan was very important to me.  You see, Stan's work at Marvel Comics in the 1960's had a huge influence on me.  Everything I learned about how to be a man, how to be a good person, I learned from Stan Lee.  Not just "with great power comes great responsibility" (although that is itself a powerful lesson for a 10-year-old kid) but also that real heroes do what needs to be done without regard to cost to self or to inconvenience.  You stop to help that lost kid even if it means missing that job interview.  You help that little old lady even if it makes you late for a date and costs you a relationship.  You do the right thing.

I'm saying all this incredibly poorly.  I grew up in a house where my father, my one male role model, was a violent and abusive man who lied to his family and stole from his work.  On several occasions he lost his job because he was caught stealing from the company, petty stuff we could have afforded to be honest about.  I could list his sins for pages, but the bottom line is that I didn't learn much about how to live a good life, or to be a good father or even a good person from my own dad.

But I did learn that stuff from Stan, and I got to thank him for it.  He seemed to be appreciative, but I know I am only one of many, many fans who told him much the same thing.  Stan made the world a better place for his being in it, and I'm glad I got to meet him.

Saturday, November 3, 2018

Eastern Stupid, er, Standard Time


So tonight we once again set ourselves up for Springtime jet-lag by messing with the clocks.  I used to think this was absolutely the dumbest thing we did as a society.  Then we elected Trump.  But I digress....

Every year I hope this is for the last time.  If our fearless cheeto-faced gibbon of a leader really wanted to make a difference in our lives via an executive order, he would end this stupidity and just keep us on Saving Time year-round.  I don't need the sun to go down at 4:00 PM here.  Ever.  Yet, here we are.

Write your legislators, folks.  This is actually one stupid thing that we can fix.  Morocco this year (Morocco!) agreed that the whole idea is stupid and is not changing their clocks.


Surely we are at least as smart as they are?  Please??

Saturday, October 20, 2018

OUCH!

Sorry to have been away.  Sprained my lower back.  For several days I was completely incapacitated. As things stand now ("stand" HA.) I can only remain upright for short periods of time before muscle spasms start up again.  Nights have been impossible; can't remember when I got more than an hour of sleep uninterrupted.  This is gonna take time, and I simply do not heal the way I did even as few as five years ago.  So I'll be back when I can.

Meanwhile, please remember:

VOTE on Tuesday, November 6th.

If a sudden emergency calls you away from your polling place, be it illness or an unplanned trip for your work, here in PA you can request an emergency absentee ballot.  Details available from the League of Women Voters.  Don't let your vote go uncounted.

If you are still in line when the polls close, you still have the right to cast your ballot.  They are legally required to stay open until everyone who lined up before closing time has voted.  Demand your right if it turns out to be necessary.

If you get to your polling place and find that for some reason you have been removed from the voter rolls, you have the right to demand a provisional ballot.  Don't be afraid to do it.  In PA the criteria for provisional ballot voting can be found at https://www.votespa.com/Voting-in-PA/Pages/Voting-by-Provisional-Ballot.aspx

VOTE!

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

Doctor Who Season 12!

My "countdown widget" has finally up and failed altogether.  Hence, this announcement:

The season premiere of Doctor Who will premiere all over the world at 1:45 PM Eastern Time on Sunday, October 7th.

The premiere will also be available in selected theatres.  Check your local area movie houses to see if they are participating if you want to see it on the Big Screen.

Again:  The first woman to play the Doctor will begin her tenure on Sunday, October 7, 2018 at 1:45 PM.

Woohoo!!

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Remembering 9/11

(From the quickly-dumped Spider-Man movie trailer.)

It's hard to believe so much time has passed since the 9/11 tragedy.  I was a new stay-at-home dad; my daughter had just gone off to elementary school and I was cleaning house with the television on in the background.  It was playing some NYC-based network morning show -- I honestly don't remember which one, but I think it may have been CBS This Morning -- with a view of the city behind the newsreader's desk.  I just happened to glance up to see the first plane plow into the tower.  Like most of us, for that first few minutes, I assumed that it had been a horrible accident.  Then I saw the second crash, live, and I knew something horrible was going down.

The hardest thing about that day was trying to explain to a first-grader what was going on.  The weirdest thing was the quiet skies for the rest of that week.

It's nice that enough time has passed that media can bear to show images of the twin towers.  A trailer for the then-new first Spider-Man movie was quickly yanked because it showed Spidey catching a helicopter in a web he'd spun between the two towers.  Ghostbusters went away for a while because of the painful views of the city which showed the towers prominently in the skyline.  And other movies either quietly went away or were re-edited to remove the images of the World Trade Center because the pictures were just too painful to look at.

I'm glad that enough time has passed that we can look at those beautiful buildings again.  I still get a little pang when I see them.  As a kid growing up in Jersey, I remember when the towers were built and I saw them go up in stages on our frequent trips to the City.  I remember my first trip to the observationd deck there, and I still have the squashed penny from one of those dorky souvenir machines that shows them.  I myself did experience a pang the first time I saw them in a film afterwards, but it was nothing like the first trip I took to NYC afterwards, when they were no longer part of the skyline with which I had become so familiar.  That was a blow right to my heart.

But an important part of "Never Forget" for me is recognizing what an achievement those buildings were, and honoring their beauty and their memory.  9/11 will always be the Pearl Harbor of my generation, but it should never mean that we don't bring ourselves to look at what we lost.  Remembering is the best way to give honor.

Friday, August 24, 2018

Constitutional Reform

This is more than a little arrogant of me.  At the end of the day, I'm just an occasional blogger with a forum whose name comes from a medium-popular comic book.  I am not, nor have I ever claimed to be, a political scientist.  And yet when I look around, it seems to me that a big part of the current division and tension in American society stems from the fact that our Constitution is, at best, outdated.  We are in desperate need of constitutional reform, and sadly, I don't see it ever, ever happening, not when we need two-thirds of the states and the Congress to make any changes happen.  Hell, we couldn't even amend the current document to call for equal rights for women....

I think we need some common-sense changes.  Nothing too radical or socialist, just...common sense.

1. The duties and requirements of the office of President need to be specifically spelled out.  The "gentleman's agreement" of things like disposing of assets into a trust has clearly failed in the Trump era.  It needs to be written into the Constitution that the President must place into trust all business and financial interests until such time as he leaves office.  The emoluments clause needs to be clarified.  Every time a foreign dignitary or lobbyist stays in a hotel owned by the President's business interests, it is a potential violation of that clause, and the potential for abuse is enormous.  That abuse needs to be eliminated.  Candidates for the office MUST release their taxes by no later than one month prior to the election.  Likewise, it needs to be specifically stated that the President's pardon powers do not extend to him/herself.  Yes, it's completely ridiculous that we even need to spell this out, but here we are.  In a society where we have to tell people "do not take this medicine if you are allergic to it," we apparently also have to tell the President that no, you can't commit crimes and then forgive yourself for them.

2. The Electoral College needs to go, entirely.  We currently do not have a "one person, one vote" democracy.  Because of the College, a vote from a state with sparse population counts almost twice as much as a vote from a more populated state.  It is grossly unfair, and it is why we have had three elections in my lifetime (so far) where the candidate who made it into the office of the Presidency had LOST the popular vote.  There is sufficient protection for these states in the Senate, in that they have equal representation with all the other states.  Their citizens' votes in elections should not be counted more than others.  Currently (like it or not, Don) the majority of U.S. citizens do not have the President for whom they voted.  We no longer live in an agrarian society where news takes weeks to travel back home from the Capitol.  The Electoral College has outlived its usefulness.  Let the popular vote decide the winner.

3. Term limits for Congress.  No more professional politicians.  Twelve years is enough time for public service for anyone.  Two terms for Senators, six for Congresspersons.  Let Congress get back to the business of caring for the people's needs instead of raising money to keep their jobs.  Let's have a Congress made up of a diverse group of citizens again -- not just lawyers.  Congress was perfectly OK with limiting the Presidency to two terms after Roosevelt.  They should do the same for themselves.

4. We need a Consitutional requirement that vacancies in the Supreme Court be filled as soon as possible.  Congress should never have had the power to hold a seat on the Court vacant for a year.  Spell it out to make it illegal for things like McConnell's stunt to ever happen again.  And yes, although I am left-leaning, I would have been equally outraged if the Democratic Congress had tried this same stunt with President Bush.  It's not right.  The Supreme Court vacancies should not be tied to the election cycle.  (One exception, and it will take a sharper legal mind than mine to figure out the details--it should be expressly forbidden for a sitting President to nominate a judge while that President is under an investigation that might result in that same judge deciding the case for or against that President.  Current events once again seem to make this convoluted circumstance a necessity.)

Think about it.  Most of the strife in our current non-democracy is caused by one or more of the situations remedied above.  Is it a perfect solution?  No.

But will any of it ever happen?  Sadly, also -- no.

Saturday, August 18, 2018

Opting Out

I wish there was a way to opt out of our massive consumer culture without opting out of civilization altogether.  Does Amazon.com know how utterly creepy it is to find spam email trying to sell me something I casually looked at on another site??  It's truly a major invasion of privacy.

I use a VPN.  I clean tracking software every time I use my browser.  And yet somehow, despite my not inconsiderable precautions, after a brief respite of peace, I find new ads and spam in my inbox because somebody somewhere has figured out a new way to do an end run around my privacy barrier.

Since Amazon and the others apparently have their bots look at everything I do, let me say this:  LEAVE ME ALONE.  Your algorithms suck.  You have never successfully shown me something I am interested in, and never successfully extrapolated something I might like to buy.  Never.  Not once.  Your creepy-assed intrusions make me LESS likely to purchase anything from you, not more likely.

I am, sadly, still maintaining a Facebook account.  As I explained once before, part of my duties as the recording secretary for the board of a small local choral group includes updating and monitoring our Facebook page, and you can't be an admin on a page there without an account.  (I can't wait until it's somebody else's job.) For all their recent ads on how they're going to better, I can tell you that Facebook is full of shit.  I still see pop-up ads for products I looked at elsewhere -- on a page for a non-profit community choral group! -- and Facebook itself nags me on a daily basis for money to boost our posts and our likes.  We don't NEED 1,200 more views and likes.  We're not growing a business.  All we need is to have  single place to remind 40 people that we have a rehearsal on Monday.  Facebook knows this.  They still send me daily notifications, and I have to check all of them out on the unlikely chance that it's one or our members or fans with an actual question.  When I do, it's a noodge from Facebook reminding me that my readers haven't heard from me in "a while."  (Usually this comes in 24 hours after a post.)

I don't NEED to spam our members or our fans.  I don't NEED to access their contacts so that we can spam those people.  We don't need to spam anyone.  I want to be part of the chorus that people want to come listen to, not one that people curse at because we're filling their inboxes with bullshit.

Internet, go back to being a public utility.  It's what you do best.  The power company doesn't nag me to buy more light bulbs, and the phone company doesn't nag me to put an extension line in every room of my home.  Take a page from them, and leave me the Hell alone.

Monday, July 30, 2018

Been Quiet

Sorry I've been away for so long.  I realize that since my leaving Facebook, this is the only way some of my friends have of keeping up contact with me, and I have been more than somewhat lax in making regular updates.

The sad truth is that there hasn't been much to report.

We did go away for a couple of weeks in July to spend some time with my sister and friends in Italy.  We do this every few years, as finances and circumstances permit, and it's always a great way to recharge, especially for my hardworking better half.  As you can see from the picture above, my sister outdid herself this year as far as location is concerned.

But other than a nice time away, there isn't much to say.

I'm tired of political rants.  I still believe that our current government is the most monstrous mistake that our electorate has ever made, but I despair of it ever being corrected.  Thanks to corruption and interference, it may not even be corrected at the ballot box; I've heard more than a few disturbing rumblings that we might just forego the next Presidential election and keep His Royal Orangeness in the White House indefinitely.  But there I go again, and what is blogging about it going to do, apart from maybe getting me on some FBI list as unfriendly?  There is no political will to oppose the current regime, nor power by the opposition to do so.  So I'd just be adding to the cacaphony.

I could rant about my health, but again, this is something I cannot change.  Most days I seem to be responding to treatment.  The occasional bad day is a slam out of left field, but I spend that day chained to my bathroom, it passes, and life goes on.  Again, nothing worthy of note.

So if you're a friend and wondering what's up with me, the best thing to do is to shoot me an email over at thayes713@gmail.com or to DM me on my Instagram; my handle there is tomglfan.  I'm most likely to see a message at one of those two places.  Clearly I'm here only intermittently, and Facebook is dead for me, just as Twitter is about to be.

I'm sure I'll be back here when I get so pissed off about something that only an essay will let me vent properly, but in the meanwhile, have a fabulous day.  Talk to you soon -- Tom


Monday, July 23, 2018

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Worse and Worse

(Click on the above image for an expanded view if you can't read it.)

When I was a kid, this was the kind of thing that showed up in the comics I was reading.  Yes, there was apparently a need for Superman to remind people to have more empathy for refugees.  But the kids he was lecturing to were appalled at the conditions of the refugee camp.  As anyone would have been, a mere 15-20 years after World War II.

That America is dead.

Despite all the grief Baby Boomers are getting, most of us, I think, are horrified by the very idea of putting people into camps, of ripping children from families at our borders, and of pathetically attempting to justify this behavior with selective quotations from the Bible.

This is not who we were.  It shouldn't be who we are.  We never used to be a nation that reveled in Nazi rallies, or that chanted things like "Build a wall!" and "Lock her up!"

But we are now.  And it's disgusting.  I can only imagine all the people sneering now at a sentiment like, "You can help too, by being friendly...."

Instead we have a president who admires a foreign dictator's ability to make his people sit up at attention.  Who wishes he could make his people do that.  We have citizens who don't care what their demagogue burns down, because it's worth it to them to see how upset it makes "elitist liberals."  Because cutting off your nose to spite your own face is now seen as a good thing.

People -- this is NOT OK.

This is not going to change unless we step up to change it.  We have to throw these monsters out.  For the love of what this country used to be, and could be again, register to vote, NOW, and vote against them in November.  This is no longer about party.  This is about who we are, who we want to be, who we could be again.  The Republican party has shown zero interest or ability to check abuses and stand up for what is right and decent.  They need to go.  Screw "#NotAllRepublicans."  They have had numerous chances to say, "No, you can't do that, not here," and have declined to do so, in the interest of keeping their jobs.  Our politicians have not had much interest in representing us.  Their job is no longer serving people, their job is to get re-elected to their jobs.  Every two years we have the opportunity to send the entire House of Representatives packing, along with a third of the Senate, and we always fail to do so.  That needs to change.

We used to think we were the greatest country in the world.  We are not.  Probably we never were.  But as we turn our backs on former allies, insult our neighbors, start trade wars and close our borders, we diminish ourselves to everyone.  More and more of us are ashamed to be American.  And we are right to feel that way, as long as nothing is done to check the abuses inflicted by our current government.  As long as those abuses continue, America will continue to be nothing more than a blot on the world landscape.

There.

I said it.

Come at me.

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

NFL and the Anthem

Today the NFL owners, with ZERO input from the players' union, laid down their new policy with regard to taking the knee during the National Anthem at NFL games.  I hope it winds up in the courts real soon, because it sure as hell looks like an infringement on freedom of speech to me.

Basically, the policy states that players must stand for the anthem, or remain in the locker room.  No disrespect for the anthem or the flag will be tolerated, and teams ignore the policy at their peril.  Violators WILL be fined.  I assume this means both teams and individuals.

I should have expected a response this tone-deaf from a bunch of rich white guys, but even in this age of Trump, I keep hoping for the best from people.  And I keep being disappointed by them.

First of all, taking the knee during the national anthem has absolutely nothing to do with the flag.  Let's state this again:  Taking the knee during the national anthem has absolutely nothing to do with disrespecting the American flag.

Players, particularly those of color, began taking the knee during the anthem as a way of pointing out the inequities in American society, especially within the justice system, which inordinately and negatively affect people of color.  Those broad stripes and bright stars are not the same for everybody, and the players got sick of pretending that they are, especially since they the ones essentially providing gladiatorial entertainment for the American masses.

Recent tragic events provide a classic example of what I mean.  The tragedy at the Texas high school this week which resulted in eight dead students and two dead faculty was perpetrated by a white man.  A white man, in a long black trenchcoat, armed.  Yet law enforcement managed to take him alive.  Contrast that with the tragedy of Philando Castile, who did not survive a TRAFFIC STOP, despite being calm and polite and compliant.  Compare that with Milwaukee Bucks player Sterling Brown who was tased and arrested over a parking violation.

No white family I know of has to have "the talk" with their children on how to survive an encounter with police.  Police for white kids are their friends and someone to turn to in time of trouble.  To a kid of color, they are a hazard to be negotiated, or a danger that many do not survive.

I believe that the players have a right to protest their views in any way that seems fit to them.  I believe that their right to free speech and free expression has been grossly infringed upon by this new policy.  I realize that during this age of jingoism and Trump, to force players to either stand or remove themselves has great appeal for the Trump base, who probably also watch a lot of football.  It doesn't make it right.

While I have never been a huge fan of football, for a variety of reasons both personal and political, I will be boycotting the game and its sponsors until this egregious infringement on the right of free speech is rescinded.  This should not be allowed to stand, folks.

Wednesday, May 16, 2018

Lies, I Tell You! It's All Lies!

(photo courtesy of the League of American Bicyclists)

I imagine that most of us have seen Facebook's new advertisements, either online or on television, about how things were good and then went wrong, but now they're going to make it all better by getting back to basics and connecting us as friends again.

Bullshit.

I manage the Facebook page for one of my local choral groups, Harrisburg's River City Singers.  (Hence the picture of the Susquehanna River above!)  It's part of my duties as secretary for the board of the RCS, and it is the only reason I maintain a FaceBook account.  I have long since deleted my personal information and personal photos from FaceBook.  But I can't be an admin for the RCS page without an account, so until a new board and new officers take over, I'm stuck.

I can, however, tell you that managing this page has been an eye-opening experience.  And then some.

On an almost daily basis, I receive messages and notifications from FaceBook on how I can expand the range of the River City Singers posts for a small fee.  We have a concert coming up this Sunday, and just now FaceBook offered to "boost" my event to 13K accounts for a mere $30.

We rehearse and perform in a small UCC church.  It seats maybe 150 people.  We use the church not because of any religious affiliations or reasons, but because the RENT IS FREE and they let us use the hall for performances FOR NOTHING.  We don't even have to split the take when we pass the hat.  The $30 that FB wants would by sheet music for ten of our members.

In short, we are a small local group, building a nice following through word of mouth, and do not in any way, shape or form need to spam 13,000 fellow FaceBook users.  The fact that FaceBook itself is incessantly asking us to do so reveals the depth of their insincerity.

Thursday, May 3, 2018

A Big Ol' Thank You!


Thanks to every asshole out there who assumed that we all stood in line for the first showing of "Avengers: Infinity War" and published their thoughts, their plot analyses, and their lists of who did what and who didn't this past week.  I feel like I've already seen the movie, and now, if I choose to go, it'll feel like an old comfortable friend, with no surprises whatsoever.  I'm sure glad I waited for the crowds to die down a little before I go!!

You assholes.  MARK YOUR BLOGS IF THEY CONTAIN SPOILERS!!!

Friday, April 20, 2018

The River City Singers

(Photo courtesy of Kathleen Daugherty.)

That's us, Harrisburg's newest choral group, the River City Singers.  I'm the big mook in the back in the pink shirt.

You might remember me saying that the only reason I am not able to leave Facebook completely is that I manage the choral group FB page.  It's part of my duties as Secretary of the organization, along with minutes of the board meeting, minutes of meetings of the general membership, and thank-you letters to donors.  The photo is from our most recent concert, which raised us $400.00.  That will buy sheet music as well as refill the scholarship fund.  (We are open to all, but if you can pay, we do have dues twice annually, spring and fall seasons, to help cover music and rental costs.  If you can't pay, you still sing with us; your dues come out of that aforementioned scholarship fund.)

It's a good bunch with a good mix of voices.  We actually have five baritones, three basses, six tenors, six altos and eight sopranos, which makes for a nice blend.  Our musical co-directors have decades of experience between them conducting choral groups.  They know their stuff.

Working for this bunch and promoting our agenda of "singing for those who have no voice" makes it worth being stuck in Facebook for a while longer.

Monday, April 2, 2018

Just To Clarify: A Facebook Departure Postscript


OK, a number of people have reacted negatively and strongly to my decision to leave Facebook.  The main reasons are that:  I should have known better; the fine print in the user agreements spelled out the potential data mining; I should have realized that when the product is "free" you are the product; and on and on and on, ad nauseam.

No.

Respectfully, no.

I did read all of those user agreements.  Which is why I never used either the Facebook app or the Messenger app.  Never.  I was never comfortable with giving those apps access to my contacts, to my phone records, or to my Friends List.  When I used Facebook at all, it was on my home computer, which uses a Virtual Private Network, using my Internet browser to access the Facebook website directly, or on the Internet browser on my smartphone, which was set up in similar fashion.  To repeat:  I never used the apps.  Never.

Likewise, I never signed up for, or played, Words With Friends, Farmville, Candy Crush, Mafia Wars, or any of the others.  The one bit of silliness I engaged in was Superpoke in my early Facebook days; and yes, I did throw the occasional sheep at a friend.  That was it.

To clarify, then -- this is why I left:  Despite my personal caution, my data was ripped out of Facebook because not all of my friends exercised the same level of paranoia.  I did not give anybody my permission to take, or to use, this data.  It was stolen, using my friends as a conduit and means of entry.  It was digital burglary.  (Originally, I wanted to use a different crime but then I realized how insensitive and triggering that was.  Nonetheless, the level of violation that I feel is comparable to how you feel when you come home to find your home burglarized.  Or worse.)

There is no way to be compensated for this.  I do not believe that either the apologies or the imminent safeguards promised by Facebook are sufficient.  So I chose to vote, as they say, with my feet.

I left.

I also want to be absolutely clear on something else :  I have absolutely no ill feelings towards any of my family or friends who may have been used to get to my data profile.  It is not their fault, any more than it would be their fault if my home was burglarized while they were holding on to a spare front door key.  The thieves didn't use their loaner key to rob me.  To continue that analogy, what the thieves did was to use a stolen address book to find out where I live.  The only person who bears the guilt and the blame is the burglar.

So I did what I would do in real life:  I have bolstered my security.  I haven't sold my house, but I got an unlisted number.

In other words, I left.

I hope that clears things up some.